The "Sleep Over"

Hey Kids!

Ok so I know that when I turned 30 that the things I use to do in my 20s I would no longer do in my 30s (well some things).  Let me tell you what happened last night.  So for a bday gift one of my friends in Atlanta decided to hook me up with someone they felt I would like and who would like me, who they know that lives here in Houston.  So I reluctantly agreed to meet this guy.  Well first off we have two completely different schedules.  He works evenings and weekends, I am a M-F 8-5 guy.  So we finally agreed on a time and it was Saturday evening. Now usually I would take that to mean like 9 or 10pm...because after chit chatting with him during the week I pretty much figured that this will be nothing more than a hook-up.  But the dude didn't show up until like 1am!!!!

So we met and ended up having a sexual attraction to each other and so we ended up hooking up.  The sex was very good.  And as par the usual after we got off and cleaned up I was readying myself to escort him out of my apartment.  But he got back in my bed and asked me to set my alarm!  WTF!!!! I conceded and set my alarm and got back in bed as well.  Needless to say I couldn't sleep and I couldn't stop thinking about what just happened "Set my alarm" that was definitely a first.

In my 20s I would not have cared that he showed up at 1am.  And there would have definitely not been any sleeping over!

So I have to ask is this what's suppose to happen in my 30s? When I hook up with someone will I no longer get off and put them (or myself) out?

The Sex with the Ex

Kiss me softly, kiss me gently, kiss me just right.  Run your hands down my chest and over my stomach and wrap around my big booty.  Smack it one good time.  Now get on your knees and take all of me into your mouth...inch by inch...

Hey kids!

You ever have those times when the sex is so freaking good you can go several days and up to a week without even feeling the urge to sleep with someone else?  Well that's what happened to me this week.  My 30th birthday was Monday (please no old jokes...lol) and I was trying to avoid hooking up with anyone and it's funny that I had several offers pop up out of no where including a threesome, when my sex life as of late is usually not that eventful.  Well this one guy who always happens to text me at the wrong time (the right time) without fail does it again the other day.  I was home trying to enjoy a mental health day from work.  He texts me wanting to come over just for sex.  I already told him no earlier that morning but I guess in this early afternoon he wasn't taking no for an answer.  And I was too vulnerable to say no.  So I agreed.  He came over we took a shower and then we moved things to the bedroom and I will stop there.  It was good, I mean really good.  And I'm pissed!

What pisses me off is that it was with my ex-boyfriend, Fernando (not his real name).  We broke up in June 2011 after being together for 2 years.  It was one of those situations were you just knew it just wasn't going to work out and this was not the person you are meant to be with.  So we both agreed it was time to end things.  There was no drama, no name calling and not a whole bunch of mess.  Just two adults who maturely agreed it was time to move on.  Well...we have moved on (time heals the broken-hearted) but we have not moved on from wanting to have sex with each other.  I keep trying to stay strong and resist him but when he starts being aggressive and speaking that spanish (2 years with me, so of course he knows how to turn me on) there is just no resisting when I'm in "that" place...lol

But during this last time we were together I couldn't help but wonder why the sex wasn't this good when we were together?  Why did we allow the sexual intimacy of our relationship dwindle down and die.  

*side bar* the last three months we were together were sexless!

But I love it when I have good sex.  It curbs my very strong and high sexual appetite for awhile.  Tonight I'm suppose to meet these guys for a threesome but I'm just not in the mood anymore...my appetite is still curbed! Damn you Fernando!!

So I have to ask...what does good sex do for you?

The Welcome!!!

I was 13 when I decided to dedicate my life to serving the Lord. That evening at revival I decided to take that step forward and walk down the aisle of the church and ask the Lord to be my savior. It was on that same night I mapped out a plan for my life. A plan that included being a respected Doctor of Medicine in the field of OB/GYN with a beautiful wife and on our way to starting a family. I had the love, pride and admiration of my parents and a bunch of friends who were just as successful in their various fields as I. All this was planned to occur before my 30th birthday at which I'd plan the next chapter of my life. They say as kids we can plan BIG and allow our imaginations to go wild. But "they" (whoever "they" are) don't tell you that most times as you get older things don't always work out just the way you planned it.
I'm MJ! And I'm conservative, realist, idealist, spiritual, very sexual, complicated melody, educator, friend, son, brother, foodie, lover of sports, movie critic and world traveler. Who has many goals, a couple challenges and a few dreams. I'm a proud half way out the closet gay (my parents and current colleagues haven't been told). I'm a transplant from North Carolina currently living in Houston, TX. And these are my thoughts about the decisions I've made, will make and have/will try to change in the future. Welcome to the life of MJ!